It’s likely that one or both of you have a significant emotional attachment to your possessions, such as your:
- music collection, or
- shared family car.
It might be hard if you can’t keep things that you believe you’re entitled to, but try and reach an agreement if you can. Use mediation if necessary.
When thinking about furniture and cars, start by working out where you’ll both live after you separate.
Will you both need to furnish new properties? If so, dividing the furniture and big appliances so that you each keep some or buy some new ones can be a fair approach.
Go through the house, the garden shed and the garage and attic – and prepare a list of what’s there.
Then try to agree who gets as many of the items as you can.
There might be some things you can’t agree on. As a last resort, you could take it in turns to choose from a list of what’s left.