Sometimes it helps to start the conversation in a less direct way rather than asking them to sit down and bringing up the subject.
Here are some conversation starters:
- If another friend of yours is experiencing something similar, maybe discuss what’s happening to them to get a conversation started.
- Your situation, or something similar, might have come up in a TV programme, book or is in the news. Mention how this is similar to what you’re experiencing.
- Use whatever is around you to start the conversation – such as bills, a new item of furniture you’re still paying off, or something you’re watching on TV.
But there are times when you’ll need to discuss the topic more directly, especially if it’s urgent and you can’t wait for the perfect opportunity to bring up the conversation.
Sometimes, knowing what your first sentence is going to be can make you feel more confident. Potential openers could be:
- ‘I have something I’d like to talk to you about that I think would help us reach our goals more effectively.’
- ‘I’d like to talk to you about [blank], but first I’d like to get your point of view.’
- ‘I need your help with what just happened. Do you have a few minutes to talk?’
- ‘I think we have different ideas about [blank], and I’d like to hear your thinking on this.’
A conversation is two-way – so make sure the other person is involved and not simply a listener.